Sayyang Pattudu : Peradaban Nusantara dari Sulawesi Barat. Bung Hatta : Perhimpunan Indonesia + Keberanian Politisi Pejuang. Hamas vs Israel H-175 : AS Tumben Abstain di DK – PBB terkait Resolusi Gencatan Senjata di Gaza, Hamas Minta Dibantu Melindungi Masjid Al Aqsho. Update Pilpres RI 2024 : Kamis, 28/3/2024, Hari ke-2 Sidang Gugatan di MK. Cagar Budaya Kota Bandung Dilindungi. MFN-12 : Putri, Loneliness, Solution For Broken Hearts.
SAYYANG PATTUDU, atraksi kuda-kuda yang dihiasi berbagai aksesoris, berjalan dan menari seiring musik yang dimainkan, untuk merayakan anak yang telah menamatkan Al-Qur’an, menyambut tamu kehormatan dan atraksi wisata. Kuda yang digunakan sudah terlatih mengikuti irama musik sambil mengikuti arak-arakan. Unik ya ..
Sulawesi Barat punya karya budaya apalagi ?
Sulawesi Barat ( Sulbar ), provinsi yang baru dibentuk 5 Oktober 2004 di utara provinsi Sulawesi Selatan dan dihuni Suku Mandar ( 50% ), Suku Bugis, Suku Toraja, hingga Suku Jawa. Mereka mempunyai bermacam tradisi menarik, di antaranya :
* MELLUAS, artinya membersihkan diri. Tradisi ungkapan rasa syukur terhadap hasil panen yang baik yang rutin digelar warga Kabupaten Polewali Mandar, Sulawesi Barat. Tradisi dibuka dengan menghanyutkan aneka makanan, termasuk ayam, dan uang di wadah dari batang pisang, yang kemudian dihanyutkan ke sungai dan menjadi rebutan warga yang telah menunggu di hilir sungai, 200 meter dari lokasi acara. Lalu, berdoa dan makan bersama. Puncaknya, bersama-sama menceburkan diri ke sungai, membersihkan diri.
* MAMOSE, tradisi ekstrem di mana para tokoh adat Budong-Budong di Kabupaten Mamuju Tengah, menunjukkan keberanian mereka menebaskan parang panjang ke tubuh mereka untuk menyatukan kekuatan dan kebersamaan masyarakat. Gendang menjadi alat musik utama. Mamose dilakukan sebelum masuk hutan, selesai membersihkan hutan, dan setelah masa panen.
* CAKKURIRI, upacara adat yang digelar 5 tahun sekali oleh masyarakat adat di kerajaan Sendana / para Pappuangang ( kelompok pelantik raja ). Acara dimulai memotong hewan kerbau, mengibarkan bendera Cakkuriri, pusaka kerajaan Sendana, lalu ditutup penampilan penari anak dan remaja, serta pertunjukan musik tradisional.
* MACCERA BANUA, tradisi warga Kabupaten Polewali Mandar untuk menolak marabahaya yang mengancam kampung. Sebelum dimulai, warga diolesi tepung yang dicampur air suci di dahi, pipi, dan dada. Puncaknya, persembahan sesajen, berupa ketan, pisang, telur ayam kampung, nanas, dan hasil bumi lainnya.
* MATTAMU BUAH, tradisi Suku Pattae, warga Batetangnga di Kabupaten Polewali Mandar yang digelar 2-3 kali setahun untuk menyambut musim buah-buahan sebagai bentuk rasa syukur pada Tuhan YME. Dipertunjukkan pembuatan manyang mammis ( air dari pohon aren ) yang akan disuguhkan kepada hadirin. Para ibu membuat lemang ( beras ketan dimasukkan ke dalam bambu sebelum dibakar ). Acara ditutup dengan doa bersama, lalu para hadirin dipersilahkan menyantap hidangan yang telah disediakan.
** Setelah provinsi terbanyak ke-30 penduduknya di Indonesia, Sulawesi Barat ( 1.458.600 ), Kamis depan, Insya Allah menyusul Maluku Utara dengan 1.319.300 penduduk, terbanyak ke-31, giliran kita bahas. Tunggu tanggal mainnya …
BUNG HATTA & PERHIMPUNAN INDONESIA. Apa jasanya ?
Hatta ikut perkumpulan pelajar tanah air di Belanda, yaitu Indische Vereeniging. Awalnya, Indische Vereeniging hanya organisasi perkumpulan bagi pelajar. Lanjut ..
https://youtu.be/B_mkkf52dvg
BUNG HATTA : KEBERANIAN POLITISI PEJUANG. Siapa takut ?
Hatta aktif bergabung dalam organisasi pergerakan Perhimpunan Indonesia. Aktivitas politik Hatta saat itu menyebabkan dirinya ditangkap tentara Belanda bersama Nazir St. Pamontjak, Ali Sastroamidjojo, dan Abdul Madjid Djojodiningrat. Lanjut ..
https://youtu.be/rE6hZ6N45q0
Jl. Asia-Afrika no.61, Kelurahan Braga, Kec Sumur Bandung, Kota Brandung, Jawa Barat. Cagar Budaya Golongan A di Kawasan Pusat Kota Bersejarah, Alun-alun Kota Bandung.
* Gedung NEDHANDEL NV, awalnya, milik Nederlandsche Handel Maatschappij NV, yang berpusat di Amsterdam Belanda sejak 1824. Perusahaan dagang yang beralih menjadi perbankan. Bangunan di Jalan Asia Afrika nomor 61 ini mulai ditempati tahun 1912.
* Bangunan Nedhandel NV dirancang arsitek Hulswit Vermen dan Edward Cuypers dengan gaya yang saat itu digemari dan banyak terlihat di Kota Bandung, yaitu Neo Classic atau Art Deco ornamental.
* Gedung Nedhandel NV bergaya Neo Classic. Terlihat pada pilar di pintu depan di tengah fasad, jendela besar di sekeliling bangunan, dan ornamen dekoratif sebelum atap. Bukti Kota Bandung saat itu berkembang ditunjang kemudahan dalam aspek keuangan ( bank, asuransi, hipotek, koperasi simpan pinjam ).
* Sejak awal dibangun, gedung Nedhandel NV dimanfaatkan perusahaan perbankan. Tahun 1960-an, Nedhandel NV diambil alih pemerintah Indonesia menjadi Bank Export Import yang sejak 1998 dengan beberapa bank lain melebur menjadi Bank Mandiri ( kini KCP Bandung Alun-Alun / Region Credit Operation ).
UPDATE PILPRES 2024 ( per 29/3/2024 ).
Gugatan hasil pilpres 2024 ke MK bukan persoalan kalah atau menang, tetapi perjuangan menegakkan konstitusi negara, supremasi hukum, demokrasi dan hak asasi manusia, agar bangsa Indonesia bermartabat.
https://youtube.com/shorts/PqVDx_yKPpk?si=3kaQKNrK0XGUKBnb
* MK jangan hanya melihat pada hari pencoblosan 14/2/2024, tapi juga sebelum dan sesudah pencoblosan saat kecurangan TSM itu terjadi ( termasuk penyalahgunaan kekuasaan, pendaftaran GRR, di mana kepala negara tidak netral / membantu pemenangan salah satu paslon / cawe-cawe ).
https://youtube.com/shorts/PguJeBPyOz0?si=KcOQkmRS19fiX7pL
* Banyak kepala desa dan kader PDIP yang diminta bersaksi tidak berani. Padahal, sebelumnya protes lantang. Mereka diintimidasi, atau lebih dari itu ? https://youtube.com/shorts/lvguGA0MmR4?si=zpVCTWejS70BqbuM
* Jual beli form C-1 pileg 2024 di kecamatan.
https://youtube.com/shorts/ck1dKbVAiA0?si=nNv5EBJndT0poE5K
* Intimidasi dari kekuasaan untuk menurunkan baliho dan bendera PDIP di Gunungkidul, ( markas ) Bali, Sumut, yang terjadi di pilpres 2024, tak terjadi di pilpres 2019 dan 2014.
https://youtube.com/shorts/D-wnXXluvu8?si=oCqpxZdQpLXPj63P
* Banyak yang bisa menyampaikan fakta kebenaran untuk mengungkapkan kecurangan, tapi diintimidasi, bahkan lebih dari itu.
https://youtube.com/shorts/SgDP2x1u89E?si=B9iqsvcQJULhYf8T
* Pengajuan protes hasil pilpres dalam 3 hari setelah pengumuman KPU 20/3/2024. Padahal data Sirekap masih mengalir. Gugatan hasil Pilpres ke MK dimulai sejak Rabu kemarin ( 27/3/2024 ) hingga 14 hari ke depan.
https://youtube.com/shorts/lvoqXoU9WCg?si=IzGnyUGkoIEozyIY
* Data Sirekap masih mengalir, meski hasil pilpres sudah diumumkan KPU pada 20/3/2024.
https://youtube.com/shorts/sLhwtGlP_-Q?si=ylNe7av8SGl6VjcO
* Data bansos Kemensos beda dengan JW. Why ?
https://youtube.com/shorts/-YfErjLksoI?si=cGqWf-6Fk1Qgx0QT
* DPR RI harus bekerja menginvestigasi kecurangan di Pilpres 2024.
https://youtube.com/shorts/Ot1OPyH-htE?si=DtFRG4Sd6zPqM5wW
* JW dikabarkan sudah menitipkan 4 orangnya di kabinet ala 02.
https://youtube.com/shorts/TPat6dEigxg?si=ttSNRi9mKO8MtOmO
* Data Sirekap ganjil. Why ? https://youtube.com/shorts/HhVhVl_kKK8?si=2P5yerR1MGAiaPP9
MFN-12 : PUTRI, LONELINESS, SOLUTION FOR BROKEN HEARTS.
LOVE. Serious ‘illness’ ( if you’re not good at managing it ). Make people cry and have headaches. Also excited like crazy. Or, extreme weather. The morning is very happy, the night is very angry. Feet on head, head on feet. Irrational. Emotional. Lost control.
This week, I experienced feverish symptoms, because I tested my first love with a man who had failed in love twice, aka broken his heart. Like the warmth of love, the bitterness of breakup is also often the inspiration for songs and films. Why ? Because love is the deepest feeling that humans have.
In fact, Putri Ariani, a visually impaired pianist – songwriter – vocalist, who was only 17 years old at the time, was able to so animate the song “Loneliness” which she wrote and sang in front of 4 highly selective America’s Got Talent judges, and hundreds of millions of American viewers, the mecca of music world.
Putri has more experience than me, about love. I’ve never had my heart broken. Let’s see Putri’s video which made many Indonesians cry.
LONELINESS – Putri Ariani on America’s Got Talent.
https://youtu.be/Wyb0ExKOE4w?si=Yt2ueDRXf-EHd8zO
Some of the lyrics to the song Loneliness :
I remember when we were still one.
Your laugh, your voice, and your bright eyes.
We’re together in this love.
Promise we’ll be forever.
And now you left me alone.
Cause you found someone better.
You’re in that way with her.
And one think I know.
You break my heart, break my hope.
Make me so down in a loneliness.
You left me when I was deep.
Thought you are my best scene
Being my prince, but I was wrong.
Baby, you change a pink to the blue.
And what does it mean all the things that we have written.
The great conversation and a beautiful future.
Perfect definition of sad flower.
You left me, you left me, when I’m in love. I do, I fall in you.
* Why do people get so sick, and find it difficult to forget their broken hearts ? We hear the song “I’m in Love” sung by Peabo Bryson. What’s really going on in the heads of people who are in love ?
I’M IN LOVE – Peabo Bryson
https://youtu.be/_aZzdssXZ38?si=LmsF3Pkt6r4j3pv7
“Time seems to stop / stand still. Every time I hug you tightly, I feel your soul in mine. One look in your eyes, and everything is beautiful to me. What I need most, is right here by my side. There’s no need to run and hide. You are everything I ever hoped for. All my life, I’ve been looking for that someone. Everyone needs someone to trust. All my hopes and fears were exposed. I needed to know, we could stand the test of time. That I’m yours, you’re mine. We can get through it, just believe, you can count on me. I will always be there. And, if I rely on you. Please, never let me down. I could lose control. Don’t you see, you are my heart and my soul”, Peabo’s version. ( Nish’s version yesterday afternoon : one love, two lives ).
* Do the hormones serotonin and dophamine in the brain flow profusely when people are in love, write and sing songs like these ? You are my heart, and my soul. You are mine, and I am yours. You are everything. My hope. In fact, before love came, everything was fine. You can imagine, this fantasy, if they leave, because your lover has better one, like the song “Perfect Liar” by Putri Ariani below.
PERFECT LIAR – Putri Ariani.
https://youtu.be/i5L-rXLipss?si=I05c2V9JXYyvsf4x
Some of the lyrics of Perfect Liar:
I thought my life was done, when we broke up, and I kinda felt desperate.
When we were separate, without you. Connected to my pain.
I try to understand.
Sometimes I miss you, but then I hate you.
I miss you. I hate you.
Talk to my mirror.
Think I’m crazy.
Alone in a night, oh.
If remembering you is hurt.
I have to move on.
Now I know.
When you say to me, I love you.
You are perfect wild.
Don’t need to give anything.
I can love myself better.
Yes, I can love myself better.
* Then, if your heart is broken, because it wasn’t him / her who was written on the 4 month fetus in our mother’s womb, what should we do ? This is the advice from soul experts and love experts ( not me, because I’ve never had my heart broken ).
Psychology expert, author of the book How to “Fix a Broken Heart” – Guy Winch emphasizes, make sure the memories that come to mind are not biased. Don’t just remember the sweet memories, but also remember the bitter memories that destroyed your relationship and could no longer be repaired.
Time cannot be turned back, nor can relationships that have already turned to mush and cannot return to rice. Continuing to be immersed in sadness can make you experience severe stress, even leading to depression. Don’t let heartbreak become the biggest burden on your mind. Believe me, heartbreak has an expiration date, and it won’t last forever. Try to move on quickly and easily. Don’t whine and hope your ex will come back.
The way to move on quickly takes at least one to two months. Not only trying to get rid of hurt feelings from your ex-lover, but also consistently implementing ways to move on quickly, starting from stopping contacting your ex, not remembering sweet memories, accepting reality, and starting to make new friend. That’s the summary. Details :
1. STOP BLAME YOURSELF.
Because it will make you feel even worse. Make yourself treated well. Forgiving and starting to love yourself again is the most effective way to move on. Try to accept that things are not always within your control and desires.
2. LET YOURSELF BE SAD.
It’s natural for you to feel sad and disappointed, especially after experiencing heartbreak. In fact, there is nothing wrong with crying when you feel heartbroken to feel relieved. Even so, don’t let your sadness last forever. You have to be good at managing your heart and feelings, so you don’t feel sad all the time.
3. AVOID ANGRY SONGS.
Unconsciously, maybe you like listening to music that suits your mood. However, if you want to move on quickly, don’t listen to sad songs about heartbreak. Instead, listen to cheerful or fast-paced songs to restore your mood and enthusiasm. It’s time for you to pursue and be busy with your hobbies : traveling, photo hunting, writing books, cooking your favorite food or baking cakes, going fishing or exercising, spending time with ( male for Nish ) close friends, buying things you want, reading books, or other positive activities to channel your emotions appropriately.
4. STOP CONTACTING.
To calm your feelings, try to put some distance between you and your ex-crush. Contacting your ex, even just to ask how things are going, can bring back memories and hinder your efforts to move on. Avoid touching and saving your ex contacts on your cellphone or social media. Don’t reply to the message that appears on your phone screen. ( If your feelings are calm and normal, then you can make friends with that person )
5. BALANCING MEMORIES.
After breaking up, you definitely still remember your ex. Try not to make any memories that come to mind one-sided. There’s no need to keep asking why your relationship ended, because it will only make him / her continue to be the main character in your life. Just accept reality as it is.
6. MAKE PEACE WITH REALITY.
It means being able to sincerely accept all the realities that you experience. There comes a time when everyone gives up everything they once had. You have to believe that everything that happens, there will always be wisdom in it. There is no need to be afraid to continue your journey in life, because there will always be new people who will make your life happy again. It’s just a matter of time, live it with full awareness and sincerity.
7. STOP FINDING OUT.
Either in person or via social media. Block all his / her social media accounts, so you can care less about what ex does and can really move on ( no longer tied to ex ). Avoid finding out about your ex until your heart tells you to stop.
8. STOP HOPE.
Get your hopes up with ex. End all those fantasies for your own good. You need inner firmness in every process, especially to stop hoping. One-sided love is basically unhealthy for your heart and feelings. Stop making empty hopes that will only hurt your heart. Allow yourself to be sad, but only in moderation. There is no need to exaggerate, because there are better days that must be welcomed in the future.
9. BELIEVE THE FUTURE WILL BE BETTER.
When you feel sad, your mind is often filled with negative prejudices, making you feel even more hurt. Try to fill your mind with positive things. Always believe that you have many advantages that can make your future even better. Beside making you feel much calmer, positive thinking also has a multitude of other benefits for mental health.
10. MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY.
Don’t forget that you yourself also need to be happy. You are very tired of always trying to make other person happy, without knowing that you also need this. So, keep making time for me-time and doing lots of things that can make you feel happy. Happiness can also give you a new perspective on life. You can make this a motivation to always be optimistic in facing the day.
11. DON’T BE AFRAID TO FALL IN LOVE AGAIN.
This means that you must be able to open yourself to accept the presence of other person in your life. However, there’s no need to rush, just enjoy the process while you heal your heart. Just make sure you are ready to be in a relationship again.
12. MAKE NEW FRIENDS.
Sometimes it’s hard to forget about your ex, because heartbroken people tend to choose to be alone, avoid public or crowds. Start making new friends, because silence generally make a person sadder. The mind is focused on the situation of breaking up and there is no one else who can encourage it, so it is advisable to get to know new people who will divert the mind and be more open to new things that are more interesting to talk about.
13. SPEND TIME WITH FAMILY.
Family are the people who will always be there for you. Don’t worry, they won’t add to your burden of sadness ( except for domestic violence parents / broken home families. In my experience, my brother who was depressed at that time was kept away from the family who made him like that for at least 2 weeks, unless me who took him to a special hospital ).
14. EVALUATE THE RELATIONSHIP.
Write down what you have learned from the relationship so far to substantiate the reasons why you are not compatible with her, and help give you a better idea of the type of partner you are most compatible with. Take some time alone to reflect on yourself. Find out what exactly you didn’t like about your ex. Did she make you someone you’re not ? Or, what is the reason that makes you hate her ?
15. IMPROVE LIFE.
Sometimes we force ourselves to love people who don’t necessarily love us, until we forget that we also need to love ourselves. Now is the time to realize to love yourself more. Be happy with all the gifts of life you have now. Start being grateful for every second of time that still allows us to breathe and smile. One-sided love is only a temporary phase in your life. Hopefully in the future, there will be better love for you. Let all these wounds and bitter experiences become important lessons in our lives to make us aware that there are more important priorities to fulfill at this time.
** Number 16-21 for followers of Islam / moslem.
*16. DHIKR & ISTIGHFAR
By remembering the name of Allah / God a lot, we will have a calm heart and soul. It becomes easier for us to be grateful for what happens. You will also get forgiveness and great rewards.
*17. PRAY.
Maybe this broken heart is Allah way of rebuking you, because you are increasingly moving away from Allah. Ask God to give you the strength to continue living, survive, and be able to overcome the consequences of the wounds caused by your ex.
Regardless of who broke up your relationship, you must truly accept that your love relationship has ended. Believe me, God still has other best plans for your relationship. Basically, you can still live without your ex’s presence.
Even though it’s so hard to forget, life still has to go on. Revive passion again with new things. Don’t stay frustrated and sink into sadness for a long time.
*18. REPENTANCE PRAYER.
Ask Allah for forgiveness for what you have done so far. Do it seriously so that your repentance will be accepted by God.
*19. CONFIDENT YOURSELF.
Believe that breaking up is the best way. By breaking up with your girlfriend, it means that Allah has saved you from the sin of adultery. Be thankful for the path God has given you. There is no better path than the path that Allah chooses for ourselves. As Allah said, “It may be that you hate something, even though it is very good for you, and it may be ( also ) that you like something, even though it is very bad for you. Allah knows, but you do not know.” ( QS. Al Baqarah : 216 )
*20. UMMU SALAMAH PRAYER. Steadfast your heart and believe that by moving away from dating, you will be given the best. After that, you just have to pray to Allah as Umm Salamah or Hindun bint Abi Umayyah prayed when a disaster struck.
“Innaa lillaahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji’uun – allahumma’-jurnii fii mushiibatii, wa akhlifllii khoiram minhaa”
Meaning : “O Allah, reward me for the disaster that befell me, and replace me with something better than this disaster.”
By saying this prayer after every sholat, Insya Allah, you will quickly forget your ex.
*21. INCREASING WORSHIP.
Maybe you have committed the sin of dating for too long and it is time to increase your worship so you can focus on a better life. Improve your obligatory and sunnah worship, so that Allah will replace your ex with a better wife.
***
Those are some tips for moving on that you can try when you are heartbroken. Consistency and strengthening your heart are the keys to getting through the pain you are experiencing. The most important thing, you don’t need to keep blaming and feeling sorry for yourself.
If you have tried everything, but still find it difficult to overcome feelings that are so intense that they interfere with your concentration in carrying out activities, you should consult with the best psychologist.
*** Hope it is useful.
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